There’s a saying in therapeutic circles that you can’t take someone further than you’ve gone yourself, and I think that’s absolutely true. Everything I teach is the result of dedicated study and hard-earned experience–I really practice what I preach. And that means being honest about where I’m at in my own journey and whether I’m the right person to help you. So I frequently refer clients to more experienced therapists or specialists who offer more appropriate modalities.
In the Arthurian legend of The Holy Grail, the young Perceval can save the wounded Fisher King and restore health in the kingdom with one important question: “Whom does the grail serve”? I believe we’re all given an option in our lives. Do we want to serve our egos or something greater, be that an idea, a group of people, a value, or the great mystery some might call god? I’ve chosen the latter–or, better yet, it has chosen me. My work is now to support others in finding their way to this place within themselves through the mud of the personality, trauma, and societal “shoulds”.
It’s taken me a long time to understand that perfection is not the same as wholeness, but actually the arch-rival of authenticity and deep connection. A big part of my work is about cultivating a space where we can both drop into the wholeness that already exists within us: a place where we can meet and see all parts of ourselves as lovable, wise, and purposeful, and from where we can jump into the unknown with a sense of adventure and curiosity.
I believe we’re here on earth to “fart around”, as the brilliant Kurt Vonnegut said–that is to say, to enjoy the human experience with all its ups and downs and twists and turns. In my experience, the more we become ourselves, the more we can laugh at the absurdity and utter magic of life, ourselves included. I’m a big fan of comedy and improv, and a very silly person at heart: my last name actually means cheeky or naughty. And while the work I do is very serious at times and trauma is not exactly fun, most of my sessions are punctuated with real bursts of joy and laughter. And that’s what it’s all about.
If you're feeling called to take your inner work to the next level, I'd be honoured to be a guide in your transformation. I offer a complimentary, obligation-free 30-minute consultation where we can discuss your goals and how I can support you.